4 facts about trauma-bonding in abusive relationships

4 facts about trauma-bonding in abusive relationships.


Karmic yogi? I don’t think so…

What can be said about someone who claims divine intercedence in their life, someone who claims to have achieved inner peace via a stream that Eckart Tolle describes but harms the family around him?  Can a sane person believe that a divine hand guides his life all the while that same person plan the financial ruin of the woman he lived with for 17 years?  Does a sane man/father ruin his daughter’s higher education aspirations?  Is that what a man does?

The reader is seduced by the spiritual references.  Inner peace, cosmic conciousness, yes even this too shall pass.  We are told that saying certain words will negate everything.  It sounds like a soul so incredibly wonderfully in touch with himself and the universal consciousness.  His faith, he claims, is what got him to his new found serenity.  What he doesn’t say is the backs he has stood on to get there.  He doesn’t reveal the demands he made of the family around him to fund him, serve him, most of fill the hole inside of him.  It didn’t matter how much was poured in.  It was never enough.  He doesn’t reveal the fear he lived most of his life in.  “Don’t panic, stay calm” I would say to him frequently as he would be sunk down in a chair wringing his hands despairing over some thing.  And if you scratched the surface, he would start raging.  I thought we were leading our family together, but when I turned around, no one was with me.  I was alone in a relationship with someone that I felt I was waiting to wake up, or dial in or get conscious.   He wouldn’t defend the woman he “loved” nor his kids. Our daughter had trouble in school with kids bullying her up to and including having an ipod stolen from her.  We had a meeting set with the school district.  The day of the meeting, he tells me “they’re calling us in early for overtime.  You can handle this.”.   And he went to work.  “We need the money “he says.  Y’know frankly, a united front would have been a lot better for that 1 hour meeting.  I’ve had years of dealing with management types as the elected officer in our local Union.  I’ve been a steward (appointed by the Local President) for years, Recording-Secretary, Secretary-Treasurer, and Local President.  Elected positions where you must go meet people, listen to them, lead them, defend them.  I’ve written many arguements defending a member and/or a position.  I’ve negotiated contracts with the CEO for a unit that we represented.  All this while doing the same job JCG was doing, Services Technician.  So yea, I can handle it.  But seeing the reaction on the face on the District Administrator to the news he wouldn’t be in the meeting for his daughter at the meeting about his daughter….but she’d seen it many times before. The mother is there but the father is not.

Even last week, we were subjected to the same negative assault,  “I hate people”, and ” people are so stupid”.  Glorious display of enlightenment for someone that yes even this too shall pass.

And now what is he doing? Well he went flying off to be with Jen.  When his daughter texted him Dec 31 where was he, he texted back telling her that he flew off to be with Jen, that she left drug rehab and attempted suicide and he had to be with her. On new years eve.

Is this what a person who has achieved inner peace does?  Is this what a karmic yogi does? More importantly, is this what a father says to his daughter? And why?

Pardon me if Jcg, doesn’t impress me with his “spiritual awakening”.

His bs has hit an all new height.  Or rather a new low.

Anyone have a good attorney they want to refer?